I’ve been dating this girl for like 11 months now. We’re 17. Her parents know me and like me, they think I’m really smart and could be someone important one day because I don’t say stupid things etc. They don’t even test me to see if I drink/smoke because I don’t, and that’s that. Anyways one time her dad had a talk with me and told me to treat her daughter the way I’d want some guy to treat my sister. That meant no sex or any of that dirty stuff, and told me to protect her and her morals. But lately, my girlfriend’s been wanting to have sex, I feel like she probably did it with someone else behind my back and likes it. But I can’t do it..Her mom likes me a lot, everytime I go shopping with her, she’ll tell me to get something I want lol.. I respect what her dad has to say for her daughter, and that’s why I can’t do anything sexual with this girl. I feel like she just wants to do things with me so she could consider me a mistake someday if we break up. I know a bunch of girls, Like she probably wants to tell her future boyfriends that “Oh yeah he was a mistake, bla bla bla” Other times it’s all about the guy wanting to have sex, but now it’s the girl, and I don’t want to because her dad would hate me, her mom would hate me, and I would hate myself for breaking their trust.
do you think its best if I just break up with her and just be her friend?
She’s so very beautiful, it would be pretty stupid to not want to have sex with her, but now every time I think about it, I’m like “What if some guy did that to my sister?” I’d beat his *** anyway and chop his penis off but still .-.
Well if you were a cat, this whole dilemma could be solved by spaying and neutering. But, humans seem to attribute value to having sex for the fun of it, so I’ll give you a relevant human answer.
You sound like a decent, honorable guy whom any girl would be jackpot lucky to have as a boyfriend. You’re both too young for sex, whether it’s wanted or not. There’s plenty of time later for that, and when it’s right, it won’t be a conflict because both will want it and both will be old enough that the parents won’t figure into it the way they do for a couple of teenagers.
Personally, yes I think it would be best to break up and just be friends. It doesn’t sound like you’re compatible as boyfriend/girlfriend but you do care about her and obviously get along great with her parents. They sound like wonderful people, as do you.